Showing posts with label cyber-bullying. Show all posts
Showing posts with label cyber-bullying. Show all posts

Wednesday, July 31, 2019

The True Visual Effects of Abuse

We never know the actual trauma and exact effects of abuse. It can hide in the darkest corners of your nearest neighborhood, your mayor's office, down the street at your local bar or even at your local church. Yes, violence can disguise itself in many shapes, many people, many experiences, and many opportunities. But let's be clear Abuse and Violence has no bias, it does not discriminate. It doesn't care of your age, your gender, your status, your political affiliation, your race, your religion, or your economic status. Violence is just Violence, it just plain hates, no matter the appearance of it. If we look at humanity throughout the ages, we can see that we have transformed ourself. We as humans have evolved into a species that has grasped the evolution of hatred and malice. And although there are particular occasions that we can show great feet of good loving kindness. We are starting to lose the inability to feel the basic instincts of great compassion. Sometimes, our mandate of un-remorseable lawlessness to appease our generation is stronger than that of human kindness. We make excuses for killing babies, we make excuses for sodomy and rapist and call them, "morally upright and law-abiding in life."
We even question the morality of the structure of human decency in the sanctity of marriages, families, the care of social equality and the treatment of each person principles. It has gotten necessary and disgusting that human life has taken a back seat because we like to use morality as the basis of our own platforms. Although, we see crying children, helpless mothers, gun violence, racial tension, religious divide, political indifferences, and human biases. I believe if we cannot take a grasp on these personal divides and agendas, we will never be able to take a hold on the issues of Domestic Violence. Ever. And the Issues of childhood trauma, suicide, and sexual trafficking; these issues are more significant than one group, one nation, and one person can undertake. We need personal deliverance and a personal manifestation of healing to this country like never before.
Martin Luther King said it best when he said,
The ultimate weakness of violence is that it is a descending spiral, 
begetting the very thing it seeks to destroy.
Instead of diminishing evil, it multiplies it.
Through violence, you may murder the liar,
but you cannot murder the lie, nor establish the truth.
Through violence, you may murder the hater,
but you do not murder hate.
In fact, violence merely increases hate.
So it goes.
Returning violence for violence multiplies violence,
adding deeper darkness to a night already devoid of stars.
Darkness cannot drive out darkness:
only light can do that.
Hate cannot drive out hate: only love can do that."


I got a fantastic opportunity to work with a great photographer in Connecticut  Nikki Lyn Amatruda, and her excellent work with the models and makeup artist in Connecticut for the Intimate Partner Violence PSA calendar,
I do have to warn you some pictures are very explicit in nature, so I AM PLACING A WARNING to anyone because of the graphic quality.  But what surprised me was the tenacity, the love, and compassion all these women and how they loved one another. I was touched by the loving kindness that each woman had for one another and how they reach out to share their stories. It really places this PSA at a particular moment in time to let the world know of what they faced. Many of them years before, many of them months earlier, and many of them just a couple of weeks, but we all can attest this is a time capsule of pain. Knowing that this pain is no longer available but tucked away until needed for our next advocacy moment. They were strong and purely spectacular women. I am so thankful to have known each and every one of them. If you get an opportunity please stop and check out Nikki's closer images online and many of these amazing women. I hope you will become part of the fantastic Domestic Violence Rally Movement. It has not been easy, but each voice together can mean a grand scale of a collective movement to show peoples stories. This Vigil in each state will show that we are going to seize anonymity and complacency and choose to stand for what is right and what is RIGHTEOUS.

God bless and stay safe in America.

                                                 PHOTOS BY   Nikki Lyn Amatruda
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Monday, August 27, 2018

Start the New School Year with some great books for your kids.

With such a beautiful day this Sunday morning, I woke up blessed and praying for many families who will be beginning the new school year tomorrow whether public, charter, private or homeschool to prepare their students for the new 2018 school year. This is going to be a great school year for every school age student, and as each student is being prepared by each parent or guardian to start the new school year with all the school supplies like: pencils, pens, paper, and erasers, let us not forget to remember all the wonderful new books that would be a great addition to their reading program. Each book is just as important of a supply for self awareness, reading comprehension, and to communicate effectively on issues that effect their day to day lives. These books are just as important as the every day materials in their arsenal of items in  their bookbags, especially the once they use in their class rooms. These tools will increase in their knowledge of bulling and cyberbullying, and are just as important for connecting your child with his or her environment and for having and open and honest discussion about certain issues.

Some great additions would be:

Great book to build empathy. Anyone who has ever felt like an outsider because of their race, appearance, ability and more. Age 5+

Written about a young girl and her service dog. Writers are a couple who lost their legs in the  Boston marathon bombing. Age 7+

https://www.amazon.com/Hello-Universe-Erin-Entrada-Kelly/dp/0062414151/ref=as_sl_pc_tf_til?tag=ffthelping-20&linkCode=w00&linkId=12d1fb909f39062038892a51631c6831&creativeASIN=0062414151
Virgil sets out to visit a friend, runs into the school bully, and accidentally falls into a well, where visions of characters from Filipino folktales help him find a way out. Age 9+

Shy Stella often mixes up Spanish and English , and worries that she  fit neither her Mexican nor her A.erican Heritage. Young readers will relate to Stella's struggles and triumphs as she finds her  voice, her confidence, and new friends. Age 8+

All these wonderful books are quoted by the August & September 2018 issue of Parents magazine. These books have been approved and very popular with many parents and children on the parent magazine. Please visit www.parentsmagazine.com for more information and more book.
And as always enjoy the new school year!





Thursday, August 9, 2018

A Little Coffee and a Heart felt discussion at Jirani Coffeehouse with Why, Inc?!

Hi everyone,

It's about 1 am and I am gathering my thoughts on what I experience last night. I had a wonderful night at Jirani Coffee House in Manassas, VA and learned some great information and heard some great stories about Bullying and Anti-Bullying prevention from some great organizations, amazing parents, and educators. It was truly a wealth of knowledge to hear their amazing stories and get their input! I am getting excited to know that we are at the forefront of some great ideas to tackle the epidemic that has been hurting our children, not only the victim but the bully as well. They are coming up with some innovated ideas to help heal and learn what we can do to teach our children, parents, and educators to succeed and learn to heal in some psychologically healthy ways, which has truly blown me away!

One organization that is looking to stop bullying in its tracks here in Prince William County is the Prince William County Student Assistance & Prevention Program with the new - NO PLACE FOR HATE,  which was established in our Prince William County Schools. This program was started in the Regional offices of Washington D.C for assistance to help Prince William County Schools and was formed as the bases of the  Student Assistance & Prevention Programs. It is being included slowly to see how it will handle in certain county schools. The Prince William County Supervisor of Suicide and Student Prevention Alliance, Richmond Hill was fervid and having faced bullying in the past as a child, he understood many of the same hurdles and knew many of the heartfelt needs of those in the room. Richmond says, "although many of these programs are there and available many parents are not aware, we want to ensure we get the help of those who can promote like community programs, organizations, and young people."   For more information on these and other school programs please contact the division of Student Assitance & Prevention Programs at 703-791-7436. 

 Another great organization that was there was PAYTON'S PROJECT Payton Rose Freeze was 17 years of age and due to the pressures of bullying and cyber-bullying, took her own life on February 10, 2016. Her father Mr.Freeze was there commemorating her life by sharing her experiences, his love for his daughter and the families experiences. His love is helping ignite a spark for Payton's Project to help many other families and kids facing cyberbullying, bullying and issues of depression. As quoted on Payton's Projects website, " Payton had just told her father the day before she took her own life that she was being bullied at school. The Freeze family believes that this, combined with the fact that Payton was found to have been suffering from CTE, or chronic traumatic encephalopathy, contributed to her death.
According to the Brain Injury Research Institute, the symptoms of CTE can be debilitating and cause “loss of memory, difficulty controlling impulsive or erratic behavior, impaired judgment, behavioral disturbances including aggression and depression, difficulty with balance, and a gradual onset of dementia.” CTE is typically caused by multiple concussions, but Payton only suffered from one, in 2014. Payton’s Project aims to bring awareness to both bullying and concussion prevention." 




It was a touching love story of a father that had the whole coffee house moved and crying. This movement in their website as I investigated, has gone to spark a legislative law and petition urging Bullying Law Additions to add a House Bill called 1624 plus to House Bill 744. They have asked many parents, organization, and groups to sign their petition on their site to help as they say "strengthen current anti-bullying law to offer better protections and improved resources". To sign this petition please go to SIGN PAYTON'S PETITION HERE. Please help their movement, learn about Payton, about their scholarship and their programs.

It was also great to be able to hear from some great youth in our audience. YOUTHCENTERSTAGE.COM.  It is a veteran-owned theater company tailored to ages 5 and up. They have summer theater camp, art classes, online class and much more. They find fun ways to connect with their peers in a fun and healthy way.
One of their youth answered a wonderful question posed by their instructors, HOW CAN YOU PREVENT BULLYING- he said "by speaking up, if you see someone tell a parent it's not hard."  Truly on our way to a preventive success, thank you Youth Center Stage for doing all you can to help our kids have a wonderful peer on peer healthy communication and always keeping an open line of communication with their parents. If you need more information about YouthCenterStage.com and more about their programs please visit their site at www.youthcenterstage.com

I definitely do not want to end this without thanking our host Why, Incorporated. Who open the floor for many of us to gather together and open the floor for many of us to talk about this unanswered, hurtful and still pending issue in our children's lives. Why, Incorporated started this movement in 2016  and pondered the same mission as many other families just as it says on their facebook page, "Why is something we ask after something happens....Why do we wait until then? Let's get the education now so that we can be prepared. "
What a powerful and profound statement..we always wait till the last minute don't we folks, let's do something NOW! This is an amazing 501c3 dedicated to nurturing healthy, safe programs for parents and children. Please visit them at https://whyinc.org for more information and to become involved in their programs. Don't wait to get involved with your local groups, churches, counties, police station, schools, government offices, social media avenues, and in your CHILDREN LIVES. Let's not stop until bullying ends and we all can get a better system in place.



 



Thursday, October 26, 2017

Be the judge ...Have they gone TOO FAR OR NOT FAR ENOUGH!

As I was scrolling through posts  of funny cat videos, Bible verses, inspirational talks, videos of inspirational speakers & sermons and gaining access of what was going on in my island of Puerto Rico. I got an amazing post sent to me from a great friend of mine named Amanda, by the way thanks Amanda. Anyways, she sent to me a video in which I'm not going to say the name but I will put the link youtubevideo below. Let's just say BK and in this link they have placed children actors to act one as a bully and one as being bullied. Then they bully a burger to see the reaction of customers . For about a consecutive period they have them bully a child for a long duration and of course the people kept looking at the child being bullied. I know it's reality but to have this going on for a while and then they had them punching a burger, Is it correct for advertisement sake?! I don't know, I felt some kind of discord and some kind of way. Why???, should they have put it in advertisement this way. Yes, I get they advertise the people sticking up for the child, which by the way were so minimal and they did have them answer questions about them speaking up for the child being bullied at the end.  But in other words they were just advertising about their burgers being bullied, tell me what is the Justice in that, I was angered and I was upset. So I leave you with this thought and you can comment below, you be the judge tell me what you think. Is it Justified what BK did or are they helping the cause for anti-bully relief and advocacy? WHAT DO YOU THINK?


Thursday, August 10, 2017

DID YOU KNOW YOUNIQE MAKEUP HAS A VIOLENCE AWARENESS MOVEMENT!

So excited to be helping to have my own 
YOUNIQUE MAKEUP PARTY
Stop by and have a look for this amazing makeup its hypoallergenic, gluten free and they even

SUPPORT STOP THE VIOLENCE movement! 
What makeup company do you know blesses others by supporting stop violence and ANTI-BULLYING, DOMESTIC ABUSE AND NEGLECT. 
CHECK THEM OUT TODAY!!!
                       

Wednesday, July 26, 2017

WE HAVE BEEN UPDATING AND REVAMPING WEBSITE!

HELLO BLOGGERS, READERS AND THOSE I HAVE COME TO KNOW AS FAMILY...


WE HAVE BEEN REVAMPING, CHANGING AND GIVING A NEW LOOK AND PUTTING NEW ITEMS ON THE https://www.endbullyingtogether.com
 WE PROVIDE RESOURCES, BOOKS, VIDEOS AND 
ANTI-BULLYING PRODUCTS PLUS ACCESSORIES.

WE HAVE GREAT RESOURCE MATERIALS FOR CLASSROOMS, FUNDRAISERS OR ALL TYPES OF EVENTS.  BUT
 IF YOU JUST WANT TO LET YOUR VOICE BE HEARD AGAINST BULLYING, WE WANT TO ENSURE TO GET YOU THE RIGHT RESOURCES.
WE SELL 
BOOKS, VIDEOS, CURRICULUMS, SHIRTS, JEWELRY AND MUCH, MUCH MORE!!!

SO COME BY AND VISIT US TODAY..






Thursday, July 13, 2017

Great Twitter Chat, DON'T MISS THIS!!!

There will be a great Twitter Chat on FRIDAY JULY 14 FROM 2PM TO 3PM from by stopbullying.gov . It will be very informative and I hope everybody will take an opportunity to go and chat!
Here is all the information:
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StopBullying.gov

Integrating Cyberbullying into K-12 Climate and Safety Program Twitter Chat

Do you represent a state and local education agencies and/or a community partner agency in cyberbullying prevention, response, and recovery? 
Join the Readiness and Emergency Management for Schools (REMS) Technical Assistance (TA) Center (@remstacenter), the National Center for Safe and Supportive Learning Environments (@SSLearn), the StopBullying.gov team within the U.S. Department of Health and Human Services (@StopBullyingGov), and the Family Online Safety Institute (@FOSI) for a Twitter Chat on Integrating Cyberbullying into K-12 Climate and Safety Programs.
  • When: Friday, July 14, 2017 from 2 PM to 3 PM ET
  • Where: Use #CyberBullyFree to join the conversation! 
Cyberbullying Chat July 14

Learn more about how to prevent bullying.
Join the conversation on the StopBullying.gov Facebook page.

Thursday, May 25, 2017

Its really time to Speak Up people!

Hi everyone,

As I was preparing for my early birthday dinner with my husband I decided to scroll through the channels and it awesome to see the cartoons for a minute. YES, YES...don't remind me, I know my age but for a moment I loved watching the funny cartoons on TV and getting a glimpse of the childhood phenomenon for a second. And the chance to forget about ridiculous adult junk! Back to the story right, you're probably wondering where I'm going with this. I found that Cartoon Network has actually started a campaign to SPEAK UP against Bullying and has been doing this for Years. BRAVO CARTOON NETWORK for leading the charge against bullying and Speaking Up against Violence to others! We will definitely be joining you on your charge and quest to SPEAK UP!
                               
 JUNE IS STOP BULLYING AND CYBERBULLYING MONTH

So, Let's going Cartoon Network 
and
 SPEAK UP!!!


Saturday, March 25, 2017

AS WE PROGRESS IN OUR VIRTUAL WORLD, ARE WE LOSING OUR HUMANITY?


Hello everyone as we progress with the virtual reality of this world and the GO-GO of the movement generation its becoming apparently clear that we all move so fast we lose touch with one another. Truly as I have with all of you I have lost touch and with that I must APOLOGIZE. 
This world is a set of digits, numbers, sets and slides that we have forgotten what is really important to us (family, friends, co-workers, students, teachers, Pastors and those close to us).
Our children and even some of us live in such an imaginary state of mind with our phones, that all we do is look at what is next on Facebook, Twitter, Instagram and Snap Chat, and little by little lose some of our humanity for one another. Our kids have become so numb to the world around them and totally incoherent to the noise of pain and suffering because all they have seen is pain, noise, violence and confusion! So all they know to do is cause more pain, more violence, more noise and definitely in their minds is confusion. They want to be caught in the middle of everything because they have been programmed by social media that, that is the cool thing to do and to be. If you are not hurting and to be hurt and being the center of attention and getting the most HITS on social media you're not the IT person!! 
It has twisted our young people into victims of their own state of abusive delusion. 
That delusion has set an abusive pattern that has set a stream of many videos of suicide, cyber-bullying, caught on tape fights in bathrooms, teachers hurt by students and vise versa, brawl fights with girls and boys and many unforeseen cry-outs by parents for children and about children. This world is crying out for our kids! So what are we parents to do?

Unfortunately until we gather together as a nation to protect one another and our loved ones this kind of behaviour will continue. We must love, talk and seek to help one another and notice the signs immediately...BEFORE ITS TOO LATE!!
Even 
IF- your child is the BULLIED or the BULLIER
IF- they are the ACCUSED or the 1 NEEDING HELP
IF- The they are LOVED or the 1 SEEKING to be LOVED
THERE IS ALWAYS TIME!!!
PUT THE PHONE DOWN AND LISTEN.

If you are in need of help, need someone to listen or having problems at home, school or anywhere
OR
                 IF you are being ABUSED
      or CYBER-BULLIED or BULLIED and need IMMEDIATE HELP
                      PLEASE CALL!!
1-800-420-1479
or 
1-800-273-TALK (8255)
OR CALL 911
DON'T WAIT!!



Tuesday, November 10, 2015

JUST CAUSE OCTOBER IS OVER AWARENESS NEVER IS!!!

HELLO EVERYONE JUST WANTED TO LET EVERYONE KNOW THAT JUST BECAUSE OCTOBER IS OVER DOES NOT MEAN THAT ANTI-BULLYING AWARENESS SHOULD BE! PLEASE BE AWARE AND CAUTIOUS OF THE SIGNS OF BULLYING AND ABUSE AND CALL THE NUMBERS THAT I HAVE PROVIDED IN PREVIOUS POSTS. REMEMBER IT STARTS WITH ALL OF US.
I HAVE ALSO REVAMPED MY ANTI-BULLYING STORE FOR ALL YOUR ANTI-BULLYING NEEDS....SO YOU CAN DISPLAY ALL YOUR ANTI-BULLYING SHIRTS, BUTTONS AND JEWELRY PROUD. HERE ARE BUT A FEW ITEMS:


CHECK US OUT AT =  http://cpaganpr12.wix.com/endbullytogether