Let's End Violence Together...Let's Rally for Domestic Violence

So excited about the new shirts for the Domestic Violence Rally at the Washington DC Capitol. We will be marching from the Capitol to Martin Luther King Memorial- October.1st, 2019 from 9:30am - 1:30pm. Check out our website to get more information and to RSVP. But please don't forget to find your individual states and get connected for your state VIGILS and march on Facebook. 
The original group is = Domestic Violence Rally 2019 group, but each state has there own group and their own opportunities for volunteering, vigil, and march sites. There is also a Domestic Violence Rally 2019 Page for you to join and become part of a great movement in your area. 

If you are looking for your state, please type it in as :
YOUR STATE  DOMESTIC VIOLENCE RALLY 2019 GROUP
**EXAMPLE**

Tennessee Domestic Violence Rally 2019 Group

Once you get connected to your own group, you will know all about the group's information and its vigils. This will give you great announcements to all things going on within your group and your state. In addition, you will make great relationships about the issues of Domestic Violence and can understand these particular issues going on in your state.  You will have an opportunity to meet your Director's and get first-hand feedback about the march, conferences and special events in your area. 
We hope you will stop by and visit us at www.domesticviolencerally2019.com and get to know our site and each vigil march more. 
Only together can we stop DOMESTIC VIOLENCE.
#passallDVlaws #EndDVEndHate #DVRally2019 #Brittanyslaw

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Why is Abuse so taboo in Christian society?

Let me begin this blog post by saying that I love being a Christian and love my relationship with my heavenly Father and the sacrifice Jesus made on the cross for me. Just so that we can set the record straight that by looking at the title above anyone doesn't misunderstand my love for my heavenly Father. Sometimes we can be most of our lives in the church, in Sunday school, reading our bible and interpret the word of God totally and completely wrong. As I began my walk with my ex-husband many years ago, I found out that I always wanted to submit to him and to the word of God and wanted very much to make the word of God work in our marriage. Instead of vice-versa making the word of God work in me so that it would be an example and it would flow into my marriage. As I prayed, I began to see a pattern in my husband that began with emotional tendencies of emotional abuse and verbal abuse that manifested into physical violence. Since I have always been a people pleaser, I wanted nothing more than to please him and make my Heavenly Father in heaven happy. I never wanted a divorce, but as things got worst, I found myself fighting through bruises and pain to stay with him, and I brought my son into such deep and painful agony. Indeed these are things that I have felt such condemnation over, but I had to learn to release and finally learned to forgive myself and my abusers. Yes, you read those right abusers! See I fell into the same pattern most women fall into with both my 1st son and then my second son. Any them now redeemed and learn through wisdom and knowledge of behaviours and tendencies. I  am FREE, in a beautiful marriage now full of promise and love. But I learned the patterns of abuse and what never to get into again. I realised that I am worthy,  that a relationship is not about 50/50 but 100/100 each putting in their equal amount to love and to be loved, that each much talk and communicate and no partner must make the other feel like the other is less.  That we are like-minded and sympathetic1 Peter 3: 8, not paying back evil for evil or insulting one another - 1 Peter 3:9, for such, is the blessing of God. And that if we do good to our partners and love them, we would speak and do good to them especially if we want good days - 1 Peter 3:10. And we must talk peacefully and walk peacefully and pursue it- 1 Peter 3:11. Because the eyes of God are on the righteous and on those who do what is right and good in his sight - 1 Peter 3:12. See I always kept look at 1 Peter 3:1 that I should submit to my husband but never read on. I always thought, "WELL THOSE ARE MY CONDITIONS I BETTER DO THEM!!" but real men have so much more to they are to abide by. 1 Peter 3:7 

*Husbands*

1 Peter 3:7 In the same way, you husbands must give honor to your wives. Treat your wife with understanding as you live together. She may be weaker than you are, but she is your equal partner in God’s gift of new life. Treat her as you should so your prayers will not be hindered.

The word Honor means-high respect; high esteem. Adherence to what is right or to a conventional standard of conduct. regard with great respect.> fulfill (an obligation) or keep (an agreement).<

The word Understanding (greek gnōsis) means- sympathetic awareness or tolerance, sympathetically aware of other people's feelings; tolerant and forgiving. Strongs - knowledge signifies in general intelligence, understanding

1. the general knowledge of Christian religion
2. the deeper more perfect and enlarged knowledge of this religion, such as belongs to the more advanced
3. esp. of things lawful and unlawful for Christians
4. moral wisdom, such as is seen in right living

The word NEW LIFE-  Gen 2:7

Then the LORD God formed the man from the dust of the ground. He breathed the breath of life into the man's nostrils, and the man became a living person.

I would never want anyone's prayers to be hindered let alone my own, but I honestly felt a sense of dread to know I might be off with the Father. I wanted us blessed and our life blessed but the moment that he laid his hands on my body he broke that initial covenant with God. Focusonthefamily.com says, "The Hebrew word for "oath" is "shevah," meaning "to seven oneself" (In Gen 21:27 31, Abraham makes a treaty with Abimelech using seven ewe lambs, and they called the place "Beersheva," which means, "the place of the oath" or "the well of the sevens.")

If you don't have an oath, you don't have a covenant.

Another Hebrew word for oath is "I raise my hand" (See Deut 32:40ff). When we raise our hands in worship, for example, we are swearing an oath. We lift up God's name when we invoke God's name in an oath."

So we are invoking and swearing our marriage and giving it life but once we harm each other we break that oath, we break that covenant; especially when we do bodily, mental, emotional or spiritual harm. That is not to say God cannot fix what is not broken that is not true HE CAN DO MIRACLES...HE IS THE GOD OF MIRACLES. But, please do not stay through the bruises and pain; sometimes the door is opening to let you go through so that God can fix the issues with your significant other and make things better with you and your family. Trust me I would never want families broken, but God wants you better, your significant other better, your children happy and He wants to be satisfied with the outcome. Let him do the work, and he will work it out.  But for now, if you are going through something and you need help, please call a pastor, a leader or the Domestic Violence Hotline 1-800-799-SAFE (7233)

Be the judge ...Have they gone TOO FAR OR NOT FAR ENOUGH!

As I was scrolling through posts  of funny cat videos, Bible verses, inspirational talks, videos of inspirational speakers & sermons and gaining access of what was going on in my island of Puerto Rico. I got an amazing post sent to me from a great friend of mine named Amanda, by the way thanks Amanda. Anyways, she sent to me a video in which I'm not going to say the name but I will put the link youtubevideo below. Let's just say BK and in this link they have placed children actors to act one as a bully and one as being bullied. Then they bully a burger to see the reaction of customers . For about a consecutive period they have them bully a child for a long duration and of course the people kept looking at the child being bullied. I know it's reality but to have this going on for a while and then they had them punching a burger, Is it correct for advertisement sake?! I don't know, I felt some kind of discord and some kind of way. Why???, should they have put it in advertisement this way. Yes, I get they advertise the people sticking up for the child, which by the way were so minimal and they did have them answer questions about them speaking up for the child being bullied at the end.  But in other words they were just advertising about their burgers being bullied, tell me what is the Justice in that, I was angered and I was upset. So I leave you with this thought and you can comment below, you be the judge tell me what you think. Is it Justified what BK did or are they helping the cause for anti-bully relief and advocacy? WHAT DO YOU THINK?

How can we encourage our kids and REMEMBER TO LISTEN!

As parents it is so difficult to know if our children are having trouble at school with grades,teachers or even lunch money let alone being bullied. Keeping an open line of communication and making our child always feel that they can come to us with any and all situations without them feeling that mom and dad won't go; (as they say -BALLISTIC), is a reassurance that we as parents can handle any and all situations with a cool and level head is a reassurance to them.

Our responsibility is to KEEP them safe but also to MAKE them feel safe and not overwhelmed them especially about the situation. 

Great example of this was Issac Irvine and his wonderful son Brodi; Brodi was being bullied at school for growing his hair out to help a unique cause and being called a girl by two mischievous and unkind boys. Issac Irvine an amazing father made an awesome video to not only help encourage Brodi but to show others that bullying is just not okay. 

The parenting style of this father is unique and amazing to say the least, HE WINS AN A+ IN MY BOOK. To not only diffuse the situation in Brodi but to uplift, encourage and love him and many others out there has created this video a huge phenomenon of HOPE. 

It's all about how we communicate to our children,

REMEMBER THEY WILL LISTEN!

April is Sexual Assault Awareness Month

www.mentalhealthamerica.net
Has this to say about sexual assault awareness》》》》
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WHAT IS SEXUAL ASSAULT?
Sexual assault refers to sexual behavior that occurs without the clear consent of the victim. According to the Rape, Abuse, & Incest National Network (RAINN), this includes:

* Attempted rape;
* Fondling or unwanted sexual touching;
* Forcing a victim to perform sexual acts, such as oral sex or penetrating the perpetrator's body; and
* Penetration of the victim's body (rape)

It's important to note that force does not just mean physical force, but includes manipulation, coercion, threats, and situations where a person is unable to give consent.
♢ Sexual violence is never the victim's fault.

How common is sexual assault?
☆1 in 6 women and 1 in 33 men report experiencing an attempted or completed rape in their lifetime.

How does sexual assault impact mental health?
Sexual assault can have a variety of short- and long-term effects on a victim's mental health. Many survivors report flashbacks of their assault, and feelings of shame, isolation, shock, confusion, and guilt. People who were victims of rape or sexual assault are at an increased risk for developing:
• Depression
• PTSD
• Substance Use Disorders
• Eating Disorders
• Anxiety
Having a previous history of being a victim and negative reactions from family, friends, and professionals worsen the impact of sexual violence on mental health.
Because sexual trauma can have such a serious impact on mental health, it's important that services and supports consider and address the trauma that many individuals have experienced.
If you have concerns about your mental health, take a mental health screen.
Other Resources on Sexual Assault:

●Rape, Abuse, & Incest National Network (RAINN)
https://www.rainn.org/
24/7 Hotline: 800-656-4673
●National Sexual Violence Resource Center (NSVRC)
http://www.nsvrc.org/
●End Rape on Campus
http://endrapeoncampus.org/
For support: 424-777-3762

Great Resources....so where to find them?

Hello All,
I know you want to find great resources and wonderful items before you, your teen and student head of back to school, right?! Here are some great videos, movies and items to stop bullying campaign word is heard loud and clear. SO I STARTED MY OWN WEBSITE WHERE YOU CAN PURCHASE ALL YOUR ANTI-BULLYING CAMPAIGN NEEDS AND KEEP THE WORD OUT! GREAT MATERIAL, SHIRTS, JEWELRY, VIDEOS, BUTTONS AND BOOKS.
THE WEBSITE NAME :       http://cpaganpr12.wix.com/endbullytogether

So check it out, Lets speak out for the voiceless, for the down trotted, down cast and hurt. Lets always let our voice be heard!! LETS STOP ABUSE AND BULLYING AND CYBERBULLYING TODAY!!

When you have knowledge you can conquer anything...

Well everyone it was an exciting first day but let's keep the momentum going. We are going to talk about some issues and also some definitions in relation to violence.

As defined by many groups and the CDC the defined act of violence is:

Any violence that can be physical, sexual, emotional, mental, verbal or even stalking. 

Violence can have many outputs; some short examples are:

• Harmful behavior that starts early and continues into adulthood. Intentional use of force whether threatened or real, against person, group or community that can result in: injuries, deaths, psychological harm or deprivation by persons between ages of 10-24.
• As physical, verbal, and emotional or mental cruelty.
• The person can be either witness, the offender or the victim.
• Some violent acts result in: slapping, hurting, hitting, bullying. Some even have taken so far as to rob and assault (with or without a weapon)

In short many of these incidents can result into: anxiety, depression, injuries, long lasting disabilities and even suicide.

THESE ARE THE FORM OF VIOLENCE WE WILL DISCUSS IN LATER BLOGS:

• Physical Abuse 
• Sexual Abuse
• Emotional Abuse
• Psychological / Mental Abuse
• Stalking
• Verbal Abuse
• Bullying
• Cyder-Bullying

 WE WILL GO OVER EACH OF THESE EACH DAY.

I would love to hear any remarks, comments or if you need to share your story to be a help to someone else please comment. If you are in need of help please comment as well or call 1800 FYI CALL or the RUNAWAY HOTLINE at1-800-RUNAWAY(1-800-786-2929)